I have worked with teenagers for over twenty years and I find them to be loyal, hard working, reliable, reasonable, a pleasure, grateful, and inspirational. I am guessing that these are not the first words that spring to your mind when asked to describe your son/daughter. I have laughed with them and cried with them, spent many happy hours talking and listening to them but mostly I have simply supported them. It has always been a real joy for me to see them develop into such wonderful young adults and I can help you to do the same.

Being a teenager is a right of passage from childhood to adulthood and we have all been through it but we often forget how challenging the journey is. Today teenagers have the added disadvantage of constant ‘bad press’. It is rare to find a good word written or said about them nowadays and even as parents celebrate their child’s’ thirteenth birthday they are beginning to dread the ‘difficult’ years ahead.

Like all children teenagers want to feel loved and safe. They also want to feel that they belong. This is really important when the changes in their hormones are making them feel constantly out of sorts. They feel that they ought to have more control over their lives and they desperately want to be heard. When this is not the case they will often direct their frustrations into destructive behaviour.

I find it very sad that so many teenagers feel very lonely and unloved when they are surrounded by a family that loves them dearly. A lack of communication between parents and teenagers results in a lot of frustration and many tears.

A teenager once said to me “You really get it don’t you Karen?”
“Get what? “ I asked
“What it is like to be a teenager.” I took that as a compliment!

Teenagers open up to me and allow me to glimpse into their world. For many years I did not understand why. However when I started to understand how powerful our thoughts are the explanation became clear. Whenever a teenager is with me I always see their full potential. I do not judge them for past behaviour but wipe the slate clean and start afresh. I talk with them not too them which means I take time to listen to their thoughts too. I empower them by allowing them to make decisions for themselves and I trust that with sufficient information upon which to base their decision they will always make the right choice. The interesting point here is that the more I allow them to make their own decisions the more they want to make decisions that will please me.

Once you change the way you think about your son or daughter you will be surprised at how their attitude towards you will change. You can then start to really communicate with them, to build a wonderful relationship with them, to guide them and to experience the pure joy of seeing them blossom in front of your own eyes. Sharing this journey with them is priceless. If you want to stop the arguments and restore a peaceful family life easily and quickly let me guide you as you guide them.

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